Updated: Jan 31, 2019
Have you ever written a wish list? Have you ever said, “I wish I had a million dollars?” Or, “I wish I was in a relationship?” The problem with wishes is that you can spend your whole life waiting for things to change, waiting for things to get better, and they never do. Never wait, always create.
Action is required now to change anything. It’s not going to happen if you wait, if you wish, if you imagine. So rather than wishing, rather than waiting, start looking for the choices that are available that you can choose right now that begin to change things.
What do you desire as your life? If you woke up tomorrow morning and had everything you desired, what would that be? Whatever that is, start moving towards that today. Throw away that wish list. Start a create list and get going!
Here are my top four tips on how to stop waiting and start creating:
1. Get clear on what you desire.
Have you ever really asked yourself what it is YOU desire? Most of us look at the people around us, look at their lives, look at what they are choosing, what they say is valuable, what they say we should want. Where are you in that computation? Oh yeah. You are not.
Stop looking at what others say you should desire and be honest with yourself. What is it that you would like? If you could have, do and be anything, what would you choose? Once you are clear on what you desire, then you can begin to create it.
You may have heard it said, “Ask and you will receive.” The problem is, most of us don’t ask. Wishing for something to occur is not the same as asking. Asking requires you to actively choose. Asking requires you to commit to your life.
Many of don’t ask because we have already decided that we can’t have whatever it is we desire, and the interesting thing is, when you have a point of view about anything, that point of view becomes your reality.
If you would like to change the point of view that you can’t have what you desire, try this. Say, “Interesting point of view. I have that point of view.” Say it several times. What occurs when you use this phrase is that whatever point of view you currently believe as real and true becomes just interesting and when it is just interesting, you can change it.
If you let go of the point of view that you can’t have what you desire and actually start to ask, you open the door for new possibilities to show up.
3. It’s about questions not answers
What if you woke up every morning, and rather than going through the mental list of all of the things you have to do, rather than concluding what the day is going to be like before it even starts, what if you asked questions?
We are taught to look for answers. We are taught to come to conclusion. We are told to get it right. The thing is, answers and conclusions stop us from having something greater. When you have the answer, when you have reached a conclusion, only that which matches your point of view can come into your experience. You literally cannot see or perceive anything else. As an example, if you have decided that the only way you will ever have lots of money is if you win the lottery, you will sit around waiting to win the lottery. Opportunities could be showing up every single day. You are unaware of these opportunities. You don’t look at them. You don’t consider them. You have your answer. Winning the lottery is your answer.
When you ask questions, you go beyond your conclusions, you move past limitations and the things that are stopping you. When you ask questions, you open the door to possibilities that you have not considered. Asking questions are the catalyst to creating your life.
One question you can ask, every single day, several times during the day is “What else is possible?” Stop stopping and start creating. Questions are the key.
Create is an action word. For things to show up in this reality, doing is required. What if you woke up every morning and asked, “If I were creating the life I desire, what I choose?” And, “What action is required today to create the life I desire right away?”
When you ask questions, don’t look for an answer. When you ask questions, look for awareness. What is awareness? You know those times when you just know something? Some people call it intuition. Regardless of your name for it, it’s the place where you know something so strongly even if you don’t have all of the facts and information. Awareness is one of your greatest strengths.
When you ask questions such as “What action is required?” you will have a sense of something. Something will pop. An idea. A person to talk to. Whatever that is, do THAT.
Wish lists, waiting to win the lottery waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right or whatever you are waiting for will always keep things in the future. Stop waiting! Get clear on what you desire. Ask for it. Let go of your answers and conclusions and ask for greater possibilities to show up and then act. If you practice this, you will come off of wait and start to create the life you would like to live.
Gary Douglas is an internationally-recognized thought leader, bestselling author, business innovator and founder of Access Consciousness® a set of simple-yet-profound tools currently transforming lives in 173 countries. He has authored or co-authored 17 books including the Barnes and Noble #1 bestselling novel, The Place. An avid investor and entrepreneur, Gary is a vocal advocate of Conscious Capitalism and benevolent leadership. He co-hosts a weekly radio on Voice America and has featured in numerous TV shows, print media and online publications around the world. He is renowned for his unique insights on love, relationships, money, business, aging, leadership and emotional freedom. Follow @garymdouglas.