Good Morning from Maine! #Gratitude to all!
Today's Best You Daily Inspiration and Journal Prompt is about your word and keeping it.
Best You Daily will help guide you and your lifestyle to be the very best they can be. Following a few of my thoughts you'll find a journal prompt closer to the end of this blog. I hope you'll follow with me, as each day, I intend to give us all something to think about and/or write about through Best You Daily. We’re here to talk about your best life in 2017 and beyond. We’re here to learn to make some lasting changes in our lives.
I'm a creature of a trust. I thrive in situations I can trust and around people I know I trust. It doesn't take a lot to have an instant level of trust with me. However, for some reason, I feel like I can't count on or trust people once they break the trust with me. That is not an easy thing to do, because I am pretty easy on people.
A negotiating moment came up these past few days. I don't even like to negotiate. I'm so straight-forward, that it makes me not fully trust folks who love to negotiate. I'd rather have the real, blunt honest truth right up front. I prefer the vulnerability and rawness to the art of the act and tricks. I'd rather have someone say, "I need to charge you $250 more because in the background I have bill to personally pay." Then I know. Then I trust you. I don't need the flowery pitches and roundabout ways people go about getting their way.
At 48, I can now usually spot an agenda coming my way too. This comes, sadly, from not seeing a few agenda'd folks along the way. It's interesting, these days, I respond to the people who are direct and say," Elizabeth I have an agenda and I need your help with this. I'm trying to achieve XYZ." They can even be vague in the goal, but at least I know or can accurately assess my role in helping.
I prefer situations and people that under-promise and over-deliver. A lot of trust and mistrust can be traced to the foundations of expectations and how we are managing our own expectations also. If things are done to our level of expectation, we tend to trust.
Once there is that hole in the trust factor, the back of my mind gets with that rolling internal dialogue of mistrust. Will they really see it through? Will it turn out the way I expect? Those mistrust series of questions play out in my mind.
I pretty much see the trust flaw until I am confident the person or situation has really changed. I'll even try things twice or go back after a bad experience to confirm my assessment. During that experience I won't even go in jaded, shaded or mistrusting. I allow for the full opportunity to regain my trust. My husband is similar. He's smiling looking over my shoulder for a second as I write this and just said, "I give people the benefit of the doubt until they disprove it a few times!"
The thinking behind the blog today is inspired by a few circumstances from people who have approached me with for coaching or with things happening in our own lives in our family and friends. Most of the issues surfacing seem to have their true roots in TRUST or lack thereof.
Pay attention to your gut when it comes to trust. If you have an question or uneasy or even queasy feeling about something or someone, address it. Don't mistake trying to feel like you are trying to control a situation for mistrust. They are different creatures.
BEST YOU DAILY JOURNAL PROMPT:
To begin, grab your notebook or your journal. Ask yourself these questions and write down what comes to your mind. Please answer 1-2 questions.
-Write about an experience in which you no longer trust someone or something. You do not need to share this with our group, so make it personal and even emotional if needed.
-Do you believe people need to earn your trust?
-Do people disappoint you?
-Who do you feel you can count on?
-Pick an issue that surfaces for you on the subject of trust and write about it. Feel free to share this with the group.
-Share any wisdom you have about trust with the group.
-Do you have an agenda?
-How do you set your expectations?
Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino is a 19-year veteran of the financial services and regulatory compliance training industry. Now, a recognized leader in personal development, Elizabeth is the founder and CEO of The Best Ever You Network, a brand with more than one million followers in social media and over two million radio downloads on The Best Ever You Show.
With a mixture of humor and grace, Elizabeth helps people root in gratitude, discover motivation and implement positive, lasting change. An expert in mentoring people to market their strengths and achieve brand excellence, she works with clients worldwide to illuminate their light within, develop their best life and become their Best Ever You with gratitude-based behavior and belief systems.
Elizabeth’s book PERCOLATE – Let Your Best Self Filter Through (Hay House, 2014) has been called “charming” by Publisher’s Weekly, with “an ingenious extended coffee metaphor.” Guarino also ranks consistently as one of the top 40 social CEOs on Twitter and was just named a favorite by Oxford Said Business School. Her hashtags #BestEverYou and #TipstoBeYourBest are widely circulated.
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