Best You Daily-How Do I Become the Best Version of Myself?

By Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino, Founder, Best Ever You

It’s a question I hear more than almost any other:

“How do I become the best version of myself?”

Not a good version.

Not a slightly improved version.

But the version of you that feels real, alive, peaceful, purposeful—aligned.

The short answer? You don’t become the best version of yourself by accident.

You become your best ever you by choice.

But let’s start here—because I’ve lived this question, too.

There were years I wore masks. Smiled when I wanted to scream. Said “yes” when I should have said “no.” I kept trying to “be better,” all while chasing a version of success that didn’t actually belong to me.

What I learned, and what I now teach through Best Ever You and my books, is that becoming your best self isn’t about achieving some perfect final state. It’s not about being endlessly positive or polished.

It’s about coming back to the truth of who you are—again and again—with honesty, integrity, and compassion.

Let’s walk through what that really looks like.

Stop Trying to Be Who You Think You Should Be

Let’s get this out of the way: You’re not here to be everyone else’s idea of “better.”

You’re not here to fit into a mold someone else created for you.

So many people confuse people-pleasing with growth. But growth rooted in guilt, comparison, or obligation isn’t real growth—it’s performance.

The first step to becoming your best self is to get radically honest about who you’ve been trying to be… and whether that version actually feels like you.

Ask yourself:

• What parts of me feel performative?

• Where am I shrinking or stretching just to stay accepted?

• Who would I be if I weren’t afraid of being misunderstood?

Your best self isn’t a role you play. She’s who shows up when you stop trying to be perfect.

Define “Best” On Your Own Terms

What does your best self actually look and feel like?

Not the Pinterest version. Not the influencer version. Not your neighbor’s version.

Your best self might be...

• Clear in your boundaries

• Kind under pressure

• Peaceful in your own company

• Lit up by your passions

• Resilient after failure

• Rooted in gratitude, not fear

Write your own definition. Describe it in real terms. Your vision becomes your compass.

Focus on Alignment, Not Perfection

Being your best self isn’t about doing everything right. It’s about making choices that align with your values, vision, and truth—even when it’s hard.

That means:

• Saying no when you’d usually say yes out of guilt

• Taking the leap, even when you’re scared

• Speaking up, even if your voice shakes

• Resting, even when the world says you should hustle

The more often you choose alignment over approval, the more peace and power you begin to build.

Check Your Inputs: What Are You Feeding Your Mind?

If you’re constantly consuming content that makes you feel not good enough, guess what? You’ll live in a loop of inadequacy.

Your inputs shape your internal narrative.

Audit what you’re watching, scrolling, listening to, and allowing into your daily space.

Ask:

• Does this inspire me—or drain me?

• Am I comparing myself to something that isn’t even real?

• Who am I letting influence my mindset?

You get to choose what you take in—and what you release. Protect your peace like your life depends on it… because in many ways, it does.

Make Small Daily Decisions That Add Up

You don’t become your best self overnight. You become her by stacking tiny, intentional choices day after day.

This is where so many people get discouraged. They wait for a breakthrough moment, forgetting that real breakthroughs usually happen in the ordinary.

Becoming your best self might look like:

• Choosing a nourishing meal instead of emotional eating

• Turning off your phone to have a real conversation

• Journaling instead of numbing out

• Apologizing instead of defending

• Trying again instead of giving up

  
  

These aren’t flashy moments—but they’re foundational. They build self-trust. And self-trust is the secret to becoming your best.

Stop Waiting Until You Feel Ready

One of the most powerful things I’ve ever learned is this: You won’t always feel ready. But you’re still allowed to begin.

In fact, most people never become their best selves not because they failed—but because they waited.

They waited for more time. More energy. More confidence. More certainty.

But what if the version of you you’re waiting to become… is waiting on you?

Don’t wait. Start. And then keep going.

Remember—Your Best Self Evolves

This is so important: The best version of you today may not be the same in 5 years.

Your goals will shift. Your values may deepen. Your vision might change.

Let that evolution be beautiful, not shameful.

You’re allowed to pivot. You’re allowed to outgrow things. You’re allowed to change your mind and choose a new path.

That is growth. That is becoming.

The most authentic version of you is the one who honors where you are, without clinging to who you used to be.

The best version of you isn’t out there waiting to be found. It’s already within you.

Not a future version. Not some perfect version. You.  Right here. Right now. Underneath the pressure. Underneath the noise.

You become your best when you stop performing and start telling the truth. When you let go of what doesn’t fit. When you say yes to what you know is right—even if it’s hard. When you stop apologizing for your voice, your values, or your vision.

If you’re asking how to become your best self, don’t wait for permission.

🔸 Get quiet.🔸 Get clear.🔸 Get honest.🔸 And begin—right where you are.

You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to stop abandoning yourself.

Because the world doesn’t need a more polished version of you. It needs the real you—awake, aligned, and unapologetically alive.

Let’s do this. Together.

With heart,

Elizabeth

Founder, Best Ever You